John "Jay" Parker

Tuesday, January 14th, 1941 Tuesday, September 24th, 2019

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Obituary for John "Jay" A. Parker

John A. "Jay" Parker, age 78, beloved husband of 56 years to Patricia E. Parker, nee Engdahl, passed away from this life on September 24, 2019. Jay was the loving father of Jeffrey (Sharon) Parker, Steven (Lisa) Parker and Susan (Brent) Ruffner. Cherished grandfather of Christopher (Allison), Alison, Jessica, Jennifer, Emily, John, Katherine, Karly and Kelsey. Devoted son of the late William and Cora (nee McConnell) Parker. Dear brother of the late William Harold (late Barbara) Parker Jr. Dearest brother-in-law of Priscilla (Richard) Carnaroli, Walter (Anne) Engdahl and the late Robert L. Engdahl. Much loved by many nieces and nephews, as well as close friends.

Jay was born on January 14, 1941 and grew up in Moundsville, WV. He attended Lafayette College where he earned a B.S. in Civil Engineering and met Patricia Engdahl, who became his devoted wife. Jay was a Licensed Professional Engineer and retired from Chicago Bridge & Iron Company after 37 years of service. He was an avid reader and an Orland Park Library Board Trustee for over 25 years. He also was a member of Faith United Methodist Church and a Board Member of the Chesterfield Place Homeowners Association. Jay enjoyed spending the winter months in Ft. Myers, Florida with his friends and family. He was a beloved husband, father, Poppie, friend and a true West Virginia gentleman. He will be missed by all who were fortunate to know and love him.

Visitation Friday, October 4, 2019 at Faith United Methodist Church, 15101 S. 80th Ave., Orland Park, IL 60462 from 10:00 a.m. to 11:00 a.m. with a Memorial Service to follow at 11:00 a.m.

In lieu of flowers, memorial donations may be made in Jay’s name to:

Spondylitis Association of America
16360 Roscoe Blvd., Suite 100
Van Nuys, CA 91406

or to

Friends of the Orland Park Public Library
14921 Ravinia Ave.
Orland Park, IL 60462

Express your thoughts and condolences at 708-532-5400

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  • Visitation

    Friday, October 4th, 2019 | 10:00am - 11:00am
    Faith United Methodist Church
    15101 S. 80th Ave.
    Get Directions: View Map | Text | Email |
    Friday, October 4th, 2019
    10:00am - 11:00am
    Visitation Friday, October 4, 2019 at Faith United Methodist Church, 15101 S. 80th Ave., Orland Park, IL 60462 from 10:00 a.m. to 11:00 a.m. with a Memorial Service to follow at 11:00 a.m.
  • Service

    Friday, October 4th, 2019 | 11:00am
    Faith United Methodist Church
    15101 S. 80th Ave.
    Get Directions: View Map | Text | Email |
    Friday, October 4th, 2019
    Pastor Caleb Yong Min Hong

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Comment | Posted at 07:18pm via Floral Arrangements

Diane Warstler

Uncle Jay was an incredible man. He was such an inspiration to myself and many others. I did not get to see him often enough, but I always knew that he and Aunt Pat were there for me. An incredible, beautiful family is testament to his legacy. He made such an impact in so many lives, he was and is much loved and will be greatly missed!! Love you all very much!!! My prayers sre with you in tme of sorrow.
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Priscilla Carnaroli

Dear Pat and family,
We are so sorry for your loss. Jay was such a great brother in law, wonderful husband, father, grandfather and Uncle. He will surely be missed as he was a big fan at all the events that he could attend that the grandchildren participated in. We had wonderful visits at your various homes and spending time together in Fort Myers. He was always patient waiting for us shopping at the Essenhaus and driving all over Maine looking for The Union Pottery. We were successful but he never let me forget it. What great vacations together. Cherish the many memories you made together as a family and also with all of your wonderful friends.
Much love to you all,
Penny. Richard and family
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Ron & Kris Ligammari

Our deepest condolences to you and your family during this difficult time. I know your family will be a great comfort to you. Our thoughts and prayers are with you.
Ron & Kris Ligammari

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Carole Naegelen

Pat and family, So sorry for your loss. I will never forget the wonderful times Rich and I had with you and Jay whether it was at each other's house or going out to dinner. These were some good memories. Love, Carole Naegelen
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